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The lecture, it seemed I was not there at the time , had been very dull, but the things the lecturer did afterwards to Linda and Jassy were not dull at all. It was rather tedious, but we liked ithe's coming again, Green Lanes this.
Well, the Lecherous Lecturer's lecture was Duchesses, and of course, one always prefers people to gates. But the fascinating thing was after the lecture he gave us a foretaste of sex, think what a thrill. He took Linda up on to the roof and did all sorts of blissful things to her; at least, she could easily see how they would be blissful with anybody except the Lecturer. And I got some great sexy pinches as he passed the nursery landing. Do admit, Fanny. Both she and Uncle Matthew always had very much disliked Mr Dougdale, and, when speaking of the lecture, she said it was exactly what she would have expected, snobbish, dreary and out of place with a village audience, but she had such difficulty filling up the Women's Institute programme month after month, in that remote district, that when he had himself written and suggested coming she had thought 'Oh, well-!
Why, for instance, would Victoria bellow like a bull and half kill Jassy' whenever Jassy said, in a certain tone of voice, pointing her finger with a certain look, 'Fancy'? I think they hardly knew why themselves. When I got home I told Davey about the lecturer, and he had roared with laughter, but said I was not to breathe a word to Aunt Emily or there would be an appalling row, and the one who would really suffer would be Lady Patricia Dougdale, Boy's wife.
Those Radletts are clearly heading for one bad end after another, except that for them nothing ever will be the end. Poor dear Sadie just doesn't realize what she has hatched out, luckily for her. It seemed to suit him perfectly. Anqther time we'll wait for the waning moon to tell him these things, he's only really sensible when he's fasting, I've noticed. Now we shall have to think about your clothes, Fanny.
Sonia's parties are always so dreadfully smart. I suppose they'll be sure to change for tea? Perhaps if we dyed your Ascot dress a mce dark shade of red that would do?
It's a good thing we've got nearly a month. Although I was bent on going to this house party, the very idea of it made me shake in my shoes with fright, not so much as the result of Davey's teasing as because ancient memories of Hampton now began to revive in force, memories of my childhood visits there and of how little, really, I had enjoyed them.
Downstairs had been so utterly terrifying. It might be supposed that nothing could frighten somebody accustomed, as I was, to a downstairs inhabited by my uncle Matthew Alconleigh.
But that rumbustious ogre, that eater of little girls, was by no means confined to one part of his house. He raged and roared about the whole of it, and indeed, the safest place to be in as far as he was concerned was downstairs in Aunt Sadie's drawing-room, since she alone had any control over him. The terror at Hampton was of a different quality, icy and dispassionate, and it reigned downstairs. You were forced down into it after tea, frilled up, washed and curled, when quite little, or in a tidy frock when older, into the Long Gallery, where there would seem to be dozens of grown-ups, all usually playing bridge.
The worst of bridge is that out of every four people playing it one is always at liberty to roam about and say kind words to little girls. It quite often happened, however, that Lord Montdore, or Boy Dougdale if he was there, would give up playing in order to amuse us.
Lord Montdore would read aloud from Hans Andersen or Lewis Carroll and there was something about the way he read that m3;de me squirm with secret embarrassment; Folly used to lie with her head on the bear's head, not listening, I believe, to a single word. It was far worse when Boy Dougdale organized hide and seek or sardines, two games of which he was extremely fond, and which he played in what Linda and I considered a 'stchoopid' way.
The word stupid, pronounced like that, had a meaning of its own in our language when we the Radletts and I were little; it was not until after the Lecturer's lecture that we realized that Boy Dougdale had not been stupid so much as lecherous. When bridge was in progress we would at least be spared the attention of Lady Montdore, who, even when dummy, had eyes for nothing but the cards, but if by chance there should not be a four staying in the house she would make us play racing demon, a game which has always given me an inferiority feeling because I do pant along so slowly.
Don't be so moony, dear. She never missed a detail of one's appearance, either, the shabby old pair of indoor shoes, the stockings that did not quite match each other, the tidy frock too short and too tight, grown out of in fact - it was all chalked up on the score. That was downstairs. Upstairs was all right, perfectly safe, anyhow, from intrusion, the nursery being occupied by nurses, the schoolroom by gov:ernesses, and neither being subject to visits from the Montdores who, when they wished to see Folly, sent for her to go to them.
But it was rather dull, not nearly as much fun as staying at Alconleigh. You had to love her, she was so beautiful and so friendly, but it was impossible to feel very intimate with her. She was the exact opposite of the Radletts who always 'told' everything. What did she love? That was the great puzzle to me. My cousins and I poured out love on each other, on the grown-ups, on a variety of animals, and above all on the characters often historical or even fictional with whom we were IN love.
There was no reticence and we all knew everything there was to know about each other's feelings for every other creature, whether real or imaginary. Then there were the shrieks.
Shrieks of laughter and happiness and high spirits which always resounded through Alconleigh, except on the rare occasions when there were floods. It was shrieks or floods in that house, usually shrieks.
But Polly did not pour or shriek, and I never saw her in tears.
She was always the same, always charming, sweet and docile, polite, interested in what one said, rather amused by one's jokes, but all without exuberance, without superlatives, and certainly without any confidences. All of a sudden, not only not nearly a month but now, to-day, now this minute, and I found myself being whirled through the suburbs of Oxford in a large black Daimler.
One mercy, I was alone, and there was a long drive, aome twenty miles, in front of me. Perhaps it would go on nearly for ever. But Twyfold, with the change and hour's wait at Oxford which it involved, was only inflicted upon such people as were never likely to be in a position to get their own back on Lady Montdore, anybody for whom she had the slightest regard being met at Oxford.
So I fidgeted in my corner, looking out at the deep intense blue dusk of autumn, profoundly wishing that I could be safe back at home or going to Alconleigh or indeed anywhere rather than to Hampton.
Well-known landmarks kept looming up, it got darker and darker, but I could just see the Merlinford road with its big signpost. Then in a moment, or so it seemed, we were turning in at lodge gates. I had arrived.
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Once inside, the butler took charge of me, removed my nutria coat a coming-out present from Davey , led me through the hall, under the great steep Gothic double staircase up which rushed a hundred steps, half-way to heaven, meeting at a marble group which represented the s. The Long Gallery was, as I always remember it being, full of people. On this occasion there were perhaps twenty or thirty; some sat round a tea table by the fire while others, with glasses instead of cups in their hands, stood watching a game of backgammon.
This group was composed, no doubt, of the 'young married' people to whom Lady Montdore had referred in her letter. In my eyes, however, they seemed far from young, being about the age of my own mother. They were chattering like starlings in a tree, did not break off their chatter when I came in, and when Lady Montdore introduced me to them, merely stopped it for a moment, gave me a glance and went straight on with it again.
When she pronounced my name, however, one of them said: 'Not by any chance the Bolter's daughter? It then seemed as though all the starlings rose in the air and settled on a different tree, and that tree was me. She led me to the table and the starlings went on with their charter about my mother in 'eggy-peggy', a language I happened to know quite well.
I couldn't be more interested, considering that the very first person the Bolter ever bolted with was Chad, wasn't it, darling?
Lucky me got him next, but only after she had bolted away from him again. The Bolter can't be more than thirty-six, I know she can't. Roly, you know the Bolter's age, we all used to go to Miss Vacani's together, you in your tiny kilt, poker and tongs on the floor, for the sword dance.
Can she be more than thirty-six? She married at eighteen, eighteen plus eighteen equals thirty-six, correct? Steady on though, what about the nine mon,ths? It was the whole point. Having given me a characteristic and well-remembered look, up and down, a look which told me what I knew already, that my tweed skirt bulged behind and why had I no gloves why, indeed, left them in the motor no doubt, and how would I ever have the courage to ask for them?
How was Aunt Emily? And Davey? That was where her charm lay. She would suddenly be nice 2. She now sent one of the men off to look for Polly. I never heard her refer to him as 'my husband', it was all part of the attitude to life that made her so generally unbeloved, a determination to show people what she considered to be their proper place and keep them in it. The chatter did not continue while Lord Momdore, radiating wonderful oldness, came into the room.
It stopped dead, and those who were not already standing up, respectfully did so. He shook hands all round, a suitable word for each in turn. Quite grown-up now, and do you remember that last time I saw you we were weeping together over the Little Match Girl?
Nothing about human beings ever had the power to move me as a child. Black Beauty now -I He turned to the fire, holding his large, thin white hands to the blaze, while Lady Momdore poured out his tea.
There was a long silence in the room. Presently he took a scone, buttered it, put it in his saucer, and turning to another old man said, 'I've been wanting to ask you -' They sat down together, talking in low voices, and by degrees the starling chatter broke loose again. I was beginning to s"e that there was no occasion to feel alarmed in this company, because as far as my fellow guests were concerned, I was clearly endowed with protective colouring; their momentary initial interest in me having subsided I might just as well not have been there at all, and could keep happily to myself and observe their antics.
The various house 2. But here, a child once more among all these old people, it was my place to be seen and not heard. Looking round the room I wondered vaguely which were the young men Lady Montdore had mentioned as being specially invited for Polly and me.
They could not yet have arrived as certainly none of these were the least bit young, all well over thirty I should have said and probably all married, though it was impossible to guess which of the couples were husbands and wives, because they all spoke to each other as if they all were, in voices and with endearments which, in the case of my aunts, could only have meant that it was their own husbands they were addressmg.
There was a movement among the women. They turned their heads like dogs who think they hear somebody unwrapping a piece of chocolate. Do you mean Fabrice? Don't tell me Fabrice is married? I couldn't be more amazed. Of course, we've always known Fabrice, and he came to us in India.
He's such fun, a delightful creature. He was very much taken up with the little Ranee of Rawalpur, in fact they do say her last baby-' 'Sonia -1' said Lord Montdore, quite sharply for him. She took absolutely no notice. Poor creatures, it's one baby after another, you can't help feeling sorry for them, like little birds you know. I used to go and visit the ones who were kept in purdah and of course they simply worshipped me, it was really touching.
Besides, the Dougdales had brought house parties to Alconleigh for Aunt Sadie's dances when Louisa and Linda came out and had given Louisa, for a wedding present, an antique pin cushion, curiously heavy because full of lead.
The romantic Louisa, making sure it was curiously heavy because full of gold, 'somebody's savings don't you see? Lady Patricia was a perfect example of beauty that is but skin deep. She had once had the same face as Polly, but the fair hair had now gone white and the white skin yellow, so that she looked like a classical statue that has been out in the weather, with a layer of snow on its head, the features smudged and smeared by damp.
Aunt Sadie said that she and Boy had been considered the handsomest couple in London, but of course that must have been years ago, they were old now, fifty or something, and life would soon be over for them. Lady Patricia's life had been full of sadness and suffering, sadness in her marriage and suffering in her liver.
Of course, I am now quoting Davey. She had been passionately in love with Boy, who was younger than she, for some years before he had married her, which it was supposed that he had done because he could not resist the relationship with his esteemed Hampton family.
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The great sorrow of his life was childlessness, since he had set his heart on a quiverful of little halfHamptons, and people said that the disappointment had almost unhinged him for a while, but that his niecePolly' was now beginning to take the place of a daughter, he was so extremely devoted to her.
She wore a felt hat, sensible tweeds, silk stockings and beautifully polished calf shoes. He's playing billiards with PollyI've sent word once, by Rory - oh, here they are.
She looked round the room to see if anybody else had arrived to whom she had not yet said 'How do you do? Nobody told me. My feelings for the Lecturer came rushing back too, uncomplicated. He was shorter than the Hampton women, about an inch shorter than Lady Patricia, and tried to make up for this by having very thick soles to his shoes.
He always looked horribly pleased with himself, the corners of his mouth turned up when his face was in repose, and if he was at all put out they turned up even more in a profoundly irritating smile. Polly's blue look was now upon me, I suppose she also was rediscovering a person only half remembered, quite the same person really, a curly little black girl, Aunt Sadie used to say, like a little pony which at any moment might toss its shaggy mane and gallop off.
Half an hour ago I would gladly have galloped, but now I felt happily inclined to stay where I was.
The things I've got to ask you I When I was in India I used to think and think about you - do you remember how we both had black velvet dresses with red sashes for coming down after tea and how Linda had worms? What is Linda's fiance like? They don't care for him much at Alconleigh, any of them. Still, if Linda does - fancy, though, Louisa married and Linda engaged already I Of course, before India we were all babies really, and now we are of marriageable age, it makes a difference, doesn't it.
Polly, I knew, was a little older than I was. It was all very dull, this coming-out seems a great great bore - do you enjoy it, Fanny? Girls had to come out, I knew. It is a stage in their existence just as the public school is for boys, which must be passed before life, real life, could begin.
Dances are supposed to be delightful; they cost a lot of money and it is most good of the grown-ups to give them, most good, too, of Aunt Sadie to have taken me to so' many. But at these dances, although I quite enjoyed going f. Each time I used to hope that I should see the point, but I never did, though the people round me were all so evidently seeing it.
Linda, for instance, had seen it clearly but then she had been successfully pursuing love. I do too. Heavenly tweed, Fanny, I noticed it at once. Are you pleased to be back in this room? It's the one you used to have, do you remember?
It always had my name in full, 'The Honble Prances Logan', written in a careful copperplate on a card on the door, even when I was so small that I came with my nanny, and this had greatly impressed and pleased me as a child.
Aren't you thankful evening skirts are long again? But I want to hear more about what coming-out is like in England. Oh, I don't know, I expect you can just about imagine.
Well, but the downstairs people are old, Folly. Coming-out is with people of one's own age, you see. Just think of it, Fanny, your mother wasn't bom when Mummy married, and Mrs Warbeck was only just old enough to be her bridesmaid. Mummy was saying so before you came. No, but what I really want to know about coming-out here is what about love? Are they all always having love affairs the whole time? Is it their one and only topic of conversation?
I felt sure, really, you would say that- it was Anyway, don't tell Mummy if she asks you, pretend that English debutantes don't bother about love.
She is in a perfect fit because I never fall in love with people; she teases me about it all the time. But it isn't any good because if you don't, you don't. I should have thought, at my age, it's natural not to. But a new idea struck me. Of course I could have, why not? I just didn't happen to, you see. I had a friend there who nearly died of love for one.
And I'll tell you something, Fanny. I honestly believe Mamma would rather I fell in love with an Indian than not at all. Of course there would have been a fearful row, and I should have been sent straight home, but even so she would have thought it quite a good thing. What she minds so much is the not at all. I know she's only asked this Frenchman to stay because she thinks no woman can resist him.
They could think of nothing else in Delhi- I wasn't there at the time, I was in the hills with Boy and Auntie Patsy, we did a heavenly, heavenly trip - I must tell you about it but not now. At this time love and marriage were inextricably knotted in my mind. Schizoid people suffer from a pathological degree of mistrust in others. Here are some words from the Self in Exile website, which was developed for support and education relating to schizoid personality disorder: Some of us are attracted addictively towards relationships which set up a power dynamic externally.
Yet these are also the relationships that touch us at deep emotional level. The other side of the equation - why a narcissist might be attracted to a schizoid person - is rather more difficult to understand. For the same reason that a narcissist is attracted to a borderline, he or she would surely find little to appeal in the schizoid. Narcs are drawn to supply and adulation, and schizoids basically tune other people out, if they are forced to interact with them at all. All of this makes it utterly surprising that this pairing does in fact sometimes happen.
Here a self-aware narc female writes in to Psych Forums about her relationship with her schizoid boyfriend. Been dating my schizoid SO for 3 years now his PD was confirmed by professional psych evaluation. My relationship is But it has led me to believe narcissists and schizoids can work surprisingly wonderfully in a relationship. I bet it is. But look past the glaring incompatibilities between these types and one will see that there are some unexpected commonalities.
It has often been noted that a cerebral narcissist resembles a schizoid. The key difference is the addiction to supply. Schizoid types tend to believe in their superiority to others but they seek internal, not external, validation of that fact. See this article by Jennifer De Fransisco for further elaboration of this concept.
The first to recognize the link between narcissist and schizoid self-disorders was the object relations theorist Melanie Klein. Later psychologists hypothesized that these conditions might be developed by highly sensitive children in environments of abuse, who otherwise might have turned out to be high-level empaths.
In a sense, they were too sensitive. The empathy and the ability to engage in the interpersonal field in a genuine way gets twisted and switched off. Geizer and Leiberz concluded that 'Schizoid' and 'narcissistic' personality features can be regarded as distinct, but complementary conditions. Both characters have a self-concept that operates as closed system.
Both, though approaching their issue in different ways with different strategies, are supremely self-absorbed. Narcissism is being unaware that others are authentic and separate beings, but using them unconsciously as if they were parts or extensions of oneself. Schizoid defenses are about placing distance between self and others.
In both cases, the external world of others is truly felt to be scary and threatening to one's survival. Narcs and schizoids are haters of humankind, both hiding their terror of people behind a veneer of smug superiority. They could choose the narcissistic or schizoid solutions to their common plight.
Another forum member, a young schizoid man, wrote about his long-term friendship with a narcissist: I could understand in a sense why this person was the way he was.
We had similar childhoods. The only difference is, we reacted differently. Two totally different paths we've taken, of course neither one by choice. The sexual relationship between a narc and a schizoid may work rather well, because both narcs and schizoids are extremely fearful of intimacy.
The emotional bonding that most people enjoy as part of the sexual experience, actually gets in the way of the enjoyment of the act for these types. Schizoids are often thought to be celibate or asexual.
This is only true in a minority of cases. They have sexual urges just like anybody else, but they find the emotional intimacy involved in sex threatening and uncomfortable. Schizoid sexuality often veers between episodes of celibacy and periods of impersonal promiscuity although on the whole, I think they are less deviant than narcissists.
Enter the narc, someone who will not impose the demand of emotional engagement during the sexual act, and will additionally disappear for long periods. But that is about as far as it will go between these two characters. When the narcissist enters devaluation mode, and starts dishing out the silent treatment, the schizoid will not respond in the correct way. There are a few other interesting dynamics here.
Since the narc actually finds other people intolerable, they desire this distance more than anything for themselves, but cannot have it, due to their addiction to supply. The schizoid has already accepted the emptiness that the narcissist feels deep inside, that they spend their lifetime beating off daily in slabs of slander issued against their enemies, and humiliating rituals of subservience enacted in the endless quest for praise and attention.
This is challenging and scary for the narcissist, for what they most fear is being alone. In their senior years, when everybody abandons them, when the grandiosity gap plunges them into narcissistic collapse, narcissists tend to become recluses.
Vaknin has made the point that a collapsed narcissist resembles a schizoid. I feel for you: schizoids and borderlines This is another pairing that turns up frequently on the Psych Forums and in psychology literature. Usually it seems that the borderline in question is a female and the schizoid individual is a male.
Gil, Vilinsky, Iofan and Bar-el have published an article exploring this relationship in-depth. They propose that each disordered individual is struggling with the same problem of object relations - that is, the desire for tolerable and satisfying interpersonal relations - by different means: [The borderline] fights over gaining success in relations, very often in vain, and reacts to failures with rage.
Inside him or herself he or she is afraid of being abandoned, being rejected, being alone. And here she meets the schizoid! The schizoid is already alone. He defends him or herself from this distasteful vicissitudes by withdrawing from the very external interactions the borderline fights over. The union seems strange, because schizoids are known for their discomfort around strong displays of emotion, and borderlines are among the most emotional people around.
There is another side to this coin though. Due to their inherent mistrustfulness and their high sensitivity to hidden agendas and manipulation, what the schizoid is most attracted to is authenticity. The difference between narcissistic and borderline emotional displays is that the former are largely theatrical, except where the primary narcissistic emotions - fear, rage and envy - are involved. Borderline emotional states are utterly authentic, and the schizoid feels and appreciates this authenticity.
Mitford is very sharp and witty about many things: how attraction works, love, aging, the rich women who have no real interests in life beyond sex. She has the essential cold heart to look on and laugh at the dramas and the horrors, and to enjoy the jokes.
And then there is Lady Montdore, with her "worldly greed and snobbishness, her terrible relentless rudeness", who is surely Mitford's finest creation.
She is crass, vulgar and tactless, and never softens or acquires a heart of gold. But Lady Montdore is also clearly enormous fun to have around, and these dire traits make her excellent company, for the other characters as well as us — she makes Maggie Smith's dowager in Downton Abbey look rather average. Nancy Mitford is supposed to have based her on her own mother-in-law, Baroness Rennell, whom she disliked very much, and on Violet Trefusis, one of those "characters" who is well worth looking up on Wikipedia , and who was lover to Vita Sackville-West and great-aunt to Camilla Duchess of Cornwall.
I like this book so much that I have done major research into not one but two of Cedric's ball costumes. I can still discover new things this time, the word "gink", slang for an odd or foolish man and still laugh over the best bits: "Sexually unsatisfied, poor her".
Lady Montdore trying to stop Fanny from getting engaged by sending for the editor of the Times so the announcement can be withdrawn.My feelings for the Lecturer came rushing back too, uncomplicated. I waited a few minutes after the stable clock struck nine, so as not to be the first, and then ventured downstairs, but was greatly disconcerted in the dining-room to find the table still in its green baize, the door into the pantry wide open and the menservants, in striped waistcoats and shirt sleeves, engaged upon jobs which bad nothing to do with an approaching meal, such as sorting out letters and folding up the morning papers.
At last she could bear it no more and broke up the party, taking the women off to bed very much earlier than was usual at Hampton. Some readers have expressed indignation at the fact that I have taken it upon myself to slap psychiatric labels on their favourite celebrities, Donald Trump, Kim and Kanye. Who is the Bolter? This is only true in a minority of cases.
The word was as a red rag to a bull and naughty Davey knew this and was waving the rag for fun. Danced, and sat out and ate disgusting ices. It's not a state that lasts very long with pretty women.
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